SELF CARE FOR PARENTS
Time & Sanity Savers
While I don't think I ever managed to achieve balance across all areas of my life, at exactly the same time, I probably managed to achieve a reasonable amount of it. That way most of our children's, and parent needs, were met most of the time.
Why go to the effort of trying to save time?
You can only spend time once
Planning supports life balance
You can prioritize what is most important (e.g. reading to your children) over what is urgent (e.g. phone call)
You can automate many routine activities (e.g. meal preparation)
You can free up time to achieve common goals
More free time usually reduces stress levels
To begin, I worked out what was most important to all of us. Then I built the organization around that to make sure it happened.
I realized planning self-care activities, for both parents, is the key to ensure that we were both effective and happy.
If parents are feeling like they've got low energy or motivation, they're often more reactive, or disengaged. Rather than being relaxed and in control. Which impacts on family relationships.
Families that have common goals, have a greater chance of long-term success. So our family worked together for the betterment of us all.
Something to consider:
If people within the family aren't having their needs met, they may be more likely to start looking outside the family to find what they seek.
You see this with teenagers, who seek out those who are exciting and fun, rather than spend time with family who in comparison, are boring. Expecting homework done, or chores completed are boring.
And you'll also see it in the partner that has an affair. Home can have become mundane, or stressful, and there's not enough in it for them to keep them loyal.
Some even become willing to jeopardize everything for some excitement.
I wonder... do you ever feel you're on a treadmill and no matter how hard you work, you can't get it all done. And do you think your partner may sometimes feel the same?
It's vital that as a couple, you look at your most important non-negotiable needs. So over the long term, you make achieving them, a priority.
We can all cope with postponement for a while, or for the greater good. But when that's all there is, and that's all there will be for the long-term, the seeds of relationship sabotage have been sown.
Assuming you're a rational being, and not a martyr, how long would you continue remaining loyal to a family, when there's nothing in it for you?
I've seen time and time again, if there's nothing in it for them, parents question their life choices. Divorce statistics are high for a reason,
But by planning ahead and prioritizing, you may be able to meet more of your wants and self care needs than you ever thought possible.
Some of the tabs below give ideas that worked well for us. You can use them as is, or as a springboard for your own personalised ideas.
Making Family Life Easy
For great ideas on how to free up time, go to the following links:
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