SELF CARE FOR PARENTS
Time & Sanity Savers
Why go to the effort of trying to save time?
I'm not sure how it is for you but I sometimes felt my quality of life as a full-time working mother was so low that I barely had anything in it for me.
I came behind my children's needs, my husband's needs, my extended family's expectations, work commitments, housework, cooking, gardening, professional organization responsibilities ...
And that wasn't all of the competing demands upon me.
And while I don't think I ever managed to achieve balance across all areas of my life at exactly the same time I probably managed to achieve a reasonable amount of it so that most of our children's and parent self care needs were met.
To begin I worked out what was most important to all of us. Then I built the organization around that, to ensure that everyone, including me, was having their wants and needs met.
I realized planning self care activities for both parents is the key to ensure that we were both effective and happy.
If parents are experiencing low energy or motivation, interaction styles can be more reactive or disengaged, rather than relaxed and in control. This impacts on family relationships.
And what I've observed over years has shown me that families that have common goals, as well as working for the success of each individual within the family have a greater chance of long-term success. We looked at increasing the importance of self care for us parents ensuring our family worked together for the betterment of us all.
Something to consider:
Is it likely that if people within the family aren't having their needs met, they're more likely to start looking outside the family to find what they seek.
You see this with teenagers, who seek out those who are exciting and fun rather than spend time with family, who in comparison, are boring, expecting them to be responsible with homework, or with chores.
You'll also see it in the partner that has an affair because home has become mundane, or stressful, and there's not enough in it for them to keep them loyal.
Some even become willing to jeopardize everything for some excitement.
I wonder do you ever feel you're on a treadmill and no matter how hard you work you feel guilty you can't get it all done. And do you think your partner may sometimes feel the same?
It's vital that as a couple, you look at the important needs in your life that you feel are non-negotiable, so that over the long term, you plan to have these needs met... And you have to make their attainment a priority.
That's basic self care for parents.
We can all cope with postponement for a while, or for the greater good. But when that's all there is and that's all there will be for the long-term, the seeds of self-sabotage and/or relationship sabotage have been sown.
Assuming you're a rational being, and not a martyr, how long would you continue remaining loyal to a family, when there's nothing in it for you?
I've seen time and time again, if there's nothing in it for them, many parents find themselves questioning their life choices.
But by planning ahead and prioritizing, you may be able to meet more of your wants and self care needs than you ever thought possible.
Some of the tabs below give insight into strategies that worked well to save my time and sanity. You can use them as is, or as a springboard for your own improved self care ideas.
For great ideas on how to use your time effectively, free time up so you can use it for what you want go to the following links:
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