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Creating Strength Based Kids

Step by Step Parenting Tips 6

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'It's easier to build strong children than repair broken ones.'

Frederick Douglas

As parents we often try to ensure that our children have reasonable levels of skills across all areas. And it can be concerning if our children fall behind in one area. Yet it's been my experience that strength based learning is a much more successful way of educating children.

By focusing on what our children do well, our children build confidence. And if they're confident they're more willing to attempt a wider variety of experiences.

Similarly, if our children are academic, provide them opportunities that stretch them. For example: Your local  gifted children's support group can provide information about enrichment programmes. They may also expose your children to networks of other gifted children they might otherwise not encounter.

If you don't encourage your child to seek out 'real things' they're good at, by default they can choose what's easy, enjoyable and accessible. This can be watching T.V. or playing computer games.

  • When we're good at something it's usually fun or easy for us to do it... And because it's easy, or fun, we're often more willing to do it regularly.

  • Obviously, because we do it more, we usually get even better and better at it.

  • A side benefit about being really good at something is, it can make us feel better about ourselves, and our lives in general.

  • We're happier because we're spending our lives doing what we love.

For example: If your child is naturally good at running you could get them involved in a little athletics programme. If they're naturally a climber, maybe try gymnastics or wall climbing. If they're great with ball skills maybe involve them in basketball activities or baseball. Or if they're great at producing artworks, buy them a quality paint set and different types of quality paper to experiment with.

Childhood is all about finding what we're good at. Where our passions lie. What makes each and every day an exciting one to be a part of.

As adults, we all like to do things we enjoy. Interestingly, often the things we enjoy, we're at least reasonable at. For example: playing golf, painting, running, playing tennis, doing handicrafts, etc.


But if it's an activity we regularly do, we're often fairly  good at it. And sometimes we're really good at it.

How much self esteem can you build by constantly doing what you're good at?


The most likely answer is... Heaps.

And it's the same for our children.

If you see yourself as successful, are you more willing to attempt new things? Even persevere with things you might not be as good at? The answer is likely yes.

Because a person's self esteem is good, it matters less to them, that they're not good at absolutely everything. It's like a tiny black spot on a beautiful mural... Easy to overlook.

 I've watched time and time again, how kids who've  learnt the discipline it takes, to become really good at something, are more willing to persevere. And this carries over to things they're not good at as well.

The stronger the foundation, the more things it can support.

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