BEST STARTS FOR KIDS
What are The Two Best Pieces of Parenting Advice Ever?
Imagine if you could change just two things early in your child's life that would make the biggest positive difference to his/her chance of overall life success.
And if these two things were relatively simple, and free, would you do them?
Many parents think of the things they'd like to do either for, (or with their kids,) but years pass and kids move on...
And the opportunity is lost.
Let's look at an analogy: If you were going on a journey but didn't know which direction to go, do you think you would get there?
Is it possible you're on a parenting journey... and if you know what's important (where north is,) you and your child have a better chance of ending up where you'd ideally want to be.
It makes sense to know where you're going as a parent. And to best do that you need to...
1. Begin with the end in mind
Simply put, that means the many qualities you ideally want your child to possess as an adult.
For example: Have you ever thought or discussed, the qualities you'd like your adult children to have, or do you assume it'll all work out okay without any planning?
Perhaps something to consider is, you probably know the things you don't want your child to be... For example: You mightn't want your child to grow up to be morbidly obese, drug dependent or in gaol. So you'd look for the opposite qualities to these as your goals which would be healthy, resilient and honest.
By having the concept of what's important and continually providing experiences that are consistent with the qualities you're attempting to produce you have a much greater chance of achieving success than if you expect it to happen all by itself.
What qualities do you want to foster in your children?
There will be many. And many supplementary ones as well.
Why begin with the end in mind?
And because we started early and knew the qualities we wanted our children to possess, our children had a much greater chance of achieving them.
And this, resulted in them having much greater life choices available to them, as adults.
(One is a doctor who graduated with Distinction, the other an engineer who received multiple merit-based scholarships, completing a double degree with honours. Both are now full-time employed and are continuing to study.
And I tell you this, not to brag, but to show with planning, success is possible... Even though our family had some major life-changing health issues to deal with along the way.)
One simple consideration could be: It's likely your child will spend between eleven and thirteen years in some form of school setting (prior to any vocational or university training.)
Therefore doesn't it make sense to ensure they've got the skills to succeed there.
'Stacking it' by spending time early on makes sense. Your child can start school feeling like they're good at learning. And they're more likely to enjoy it as a result.
But for those who start behind, they compare themselves to the others. They can feel they're not good at learning and develop a negative attitude as a result. And then it's often remediation later when they're struggling.
Something to consider is: Are you more likely to act out if you're succeeding or if you are not succeeding?
Why would it be different for your child?
'Treat a child as though he is already the person he is capable of becoming.'
This can be a really interesting conversation to have with a partner because you'll likely have differing weightings to the same qualities. At this point if both parents make a commitment to make your child's success a priority, and work together to achieve it, your child's chances are much greater.
To provide examples, in our case, the qualities we wanted for our children was for them to be: healthy, happy, kind, tolerant, responsible, intelligent, capable, resilient, independent adults. We ideally wanted them to go to University, have quality friendships and quality relationships in their life.
For example, while the qualities already listed seemed extensive, many other qualities were also very important to us like honesty, loyalty, patience, compassion, being a nice person, etc. You may have even more.
Yet just by having those aspirations , it helped guide our parenting styles to ensure they were consistent with our goals.
As a simple example: We valued health and education so we provided healthy meals, the opportunity for exercise and we modeled being healthy ourselves. We actively supported education and we also talked about the importance of goal setting and the habits which underpin them.
And like most parents, as our children grew, we wanted to help them achieve what they wanted. One wanted to be a doctor, the other a 'building scientist' (an engineer,) so we provided learning opportunities around their interests.
Best Parenting Advice.com provides practical ideas and best parenting advice to help you raise happy children into successful adults by someone who's done it...
Basically it's what good teachers know to do with their own children.
In addition to teaching my own children I've taught thousands of other children over my multi-award winning career.
I've met four year olds who growled to communicate, through to others who were capable of conversing about complex concepts like space, and at four had an extensive vocabulary and general knowledge.
The difference in their potential commencing school was already significant.
And the second thing that makes the biggest positive difference to a child's chance of life success is to:
2. Provide a quality language and learning environment from birth.
The 'quality language and learning environment from birth strategies,' below are really worth your time to check out:
What do successful families do differently?
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Best parenting takes time. The best parenting advice ever is simple: Do your best, don't give up and love your children, no matter what.